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It is crucial to understand that not everyone responds to rejection similarly. Some may
turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse, self-harm, avoidance,
aggression, or excessive social media use. Each of these responses is a unique and valid
attempt to manage the pain of rejection.
Like all other feelings, the human mind takes time to process and understand the experience.
It is perfectly normal to desire acceptance, whether it is from friends, classmates, teachers,
or family. However, it is essential to remember that this acceptance may sometimes only
be immediate. When faced with non-acceptance, it can come as a shock. In these moments,
finding ways to stay calm and centred is crucial.
Conclusion
Always remember how a person reacts toward you reflects their own thoughts and ideas
about the world rather than your worth. We reject someone due to a certain perception
we have of them, which has nothing to do with the rejected person. Sometimes, due to
our need to please people, we forget our own worth. We must remember instead that it
is okay not to be accepted by everyone at all times. This understanding can help you feel
more validated and understood.
Book Recommendation
'Permission to Feel' by Marc Brackett, Ph.D.
Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our
Society Thrive
It is a practical and transformative 5-step strategy to ensure
the emotional well-being of both yourself and your child. The
mental well-being of children and adults is alarmingly poor.
The author understands why this is the case and what we
can do to improve it. He has developed an effective plan to
enhance children’s and adults’ lives. This blueprint focusses
on understanding and using our emotions wisely so they
contribute to our success and well-being rather than hinder it.
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